Updated: Jul 27
If you want to have the relationships of your dreams - an amazing marriage or relationship with a man, its important to dig deep into the very core of understanding how men function on a biological level, what drives them, and most importantly, what they truly desire out of a relationship with you. Are men wired to sustain and lead in a marriage? Can they truly love and can they experience genuine love?
Studies and statistics reveal a startling fact: 80 percent of women initiate divorce in marriages. So, why are so many women choosing to end their marriages if men are supposed to be good partners? It's not just about money; most men aren't millionaires or considered wealthy. In fact, statistics show that after a divorce, women often face financial struggles, with their household income decreasing by almost 30% on average. So what is driving women to take this risk and initiate divorce?
It turns out that women are divorcing men not primarily because of financial reasons, but rather due to unmet emotional needs and unequal division of domestic labor. Women often find themselves shouldering most of the domestic responsibilities within their marriages.
To gain empowerment in your relationships and marriage with men, we must understand the core disposition of men. While women often seek marriage for true love and connection, it may not be the primary motivation for most men. This is where it gets fascinating when we uncover the biological nature of men.
When we examine the biological makeup of men and women, there's a significant difference. Women are predominantly composed of Progesterone, while men are dominated by Testosterone. Men produce a large amount of testosterone, which fuels their strong desire for sex. It's so powerful that it can overshadow their logical thinking.
As mention by Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich, "Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires. When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times. So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact that men freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge it."
Research has demonstrated that testosterone increases the release of dopamine in response to rewards, particularly in males who tend to have higher testosterone levels and a stronger dopamine response compared to females. So, when men engage in sex, they experience a drug-like high and become addicted to the chemical cocktail released in their brains. Women, on the other hand, are driven by progesterone, a chemical hormone that produces oxytocin when they become emotionally close to someone.
Now that we have a glimpse of the biological factors at play, it might seem challenging to have a meaningful relationship with men, since both sexes are driven by two different objectives. But don't lose hope! In this article, I will explore how by understanding the nature of men, women are able to have an amazing relationship and marriage with them.
How Men and Women bond
Psychologists often delve into the fascinating world of human behavior, highlighting the male instinct of "fight or flight." Meanwhile, they shine a light on women's unique approach, which they aptly call "tend and befriend."
For women, their predominant hormone, progesterone, plays a pivotal role in releasing oxytocin when they bond emotionally with both men and women. Researchers from the esteemed University of Michigan have discovered that when women feel emotionally close to a girlfriend, certain hormones are unleashed in their bodies, making them feel happier and more relaxed.
Now, let's explore the intriguing dynamics of male bonding. It's a delicate yet masculine maneuver that involves overcoming instinctive competition between males, replacing it with loving cooperation. Oddly enough, for some men, the quickest way to bond is to engage in a bit of friendly combat. On the other hand, women master the art of bonding through genuine care and companionship, aptly termed "tend and befriend."
Studies have also illuminated that men generally have lower levels of empathy compared to women. Women, with their higher empathy, tend to exude greater care and emotional acuity. This TED talk talks about Empathy between the sexes.
So, what's the essence of this biochemical dance? Men are inherently driven by their biological survival instinct, yearning for sex as a potent response. While they often maintain close ties with their male friends, they turn their attention to women when they seek to fulfill their primary survival needs. It's not about caring and sharing in the same way women do; rather, men are on the hunt for women to satisfy their biological needs. Beyond sex, they may rely on women for other survival necessities, such as building their life up, cooking, cleaning, providing emotional support, providing offspring, 50/50 financial arrangements and more.
But here's the rub: in long-term relationships, men often get the physical intimacy they seek, while women find themselves lacking the emotional intimacy needed to truly bond with their partner. Women may experience a biochemical connection through physical intercourse, and their inherent empathy might lead them to provide unpaid domestic labor, which can take a toll on them emotionally and physically, often resulting in them deciding to call it quits.
Now that we've unveiled the biochemical drivers behind men's behavior, you might wonder how to foster a meaningful relationship with any man. As outlined earlier, there are two main issues: most men primarily approach women to fulfill their own survival needs, and not because they want to help you succeed in life and secondly, many men have lower empathy due to underutilising the right side of their brain. Men uses the left side of the brain ( logic, math, sequential etc) In contrast, women possess an integrated brain structure, with the left and right sides working harmoniously, enhancing their ability for holistic functions such as logic, abstract thinking, empathy, and intuition.
While men may initially score low on the empathy scale, they have the remarkable ability to score high if they receive incentives, like being paid. So, what does this mean for women? It signifies that men can indeed connect their brain's right side, but only if they are willing to be trained. As a woman, you have the power to influence your man to develop and strengthen his neurotransmitters on the right side of his brain, creating the meaningful relationship you desire.
As his empathy grows, his animalistic instinct, driven by the need for sexual survival, will be better balanced. You may embark on what we call the "empathy gym" together, overcoming this deficiency an evolved man capable of loving deeply not only his partner but also his family, friends, and society at large. Just as an evolved woman possesses the ability to love authentically and profoundly.
Scientiﬁc research has disclosed these signiﬁcant facts:
1. The men of greatest achievement are men with highly developed sex natures; men who have learned the art of sex transmutation.
2. The men who have accumulated great fortunes and achieved outstanding recognition in literature, art, industry, architecture, and the professions, were motivated by the inﬂuence of a woman. (Napoleon Hill- Think and Grow Rich)
With that, if you're eager to know the secret and delve deeper to have an amazing relationship and marriage with your man in just 30 days, don't hesitate to contact us for a free 30-minute discovery call.
In the next article, we'll unveil the 6 Elements of love, helping you easily discern if it's genuine love or if your man might be manipulating you to fulfil his needs with minimal effort on his part. Stay tuned!
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